Hi Treasamariam,

This doesn’t add up.  He wants this qualification, he wants a high profile, interesting, corporate job.  He doesn’t want to put the effort in to gain the reward.  The job market is highly competitive and he will need more than borderline passes if he is to compete.  Even if he were to get such a job, how long would it last?

I wonder who he wants all this for.  If he isn’t motivated it is probably because he isn’t interested.  The words coming out of his mouth aren’t matching his actions.

What career will he choose if he doesn’t pass his final exams?  Maybe he just isn’t as worried about this as you are.  This is not the be all and end all of life.  Be wary of labels ‘lazy’.  He’s carried this characteristic for years and will probably carry it for even more years to come.  Maybe he’s just more laid back than you.  In your view, all he needs is someone to “push him, motivate him and make him more productive”.

Your second post contradicts your first post where you said he has a ‘don’t care attitude towards his studies, exams and career’.

Everyone has said the same thing in their replies to you.  If you are prepared to be the one who achieves, provides the finances and worries incessantly – fine.  He will make an excellent father with all those friendly, caring, loyal and sincere qualities that you are enjoying so much.

Funny how you haven’t listened.

Peggy