Dear Dan:

You are welcome. Every time you find yourself “‘competing’ with anyone else”, remind yourself that you don’t need to do that, all that you need to be enough for a woman- is already there, you are good enough.

You fancy her, you wrote, and soon you will not be working with her, so it makes sense for you to aim at developing a friendship with her that will extend beyond work. Ask her questions, share with her, listen to her, learn who she is, teach her who you are, and take it from there.

anita