Hi Bonni-mor,

Sorry for the delay in replying but I’m finding it difficult to know quite how to.  Your relationship seems to have gone into some sort of mechanical state.  Something to be fixed.  First the romantic side, then the sexual side.  “Fixed” seems to be a strange term to use in the context of a relationship.  A relationship needs to be able to change, grow, expand, move – it cannot stay the same.  Your boyfriend professes to love you but doesn’t desire you.  The two generally go hand in hand.

Now thrown into the mix is his impending move to New York.  It could be another reason for his anxiety interfering with his performance or it could become a way out of his dilemma.  I can’t imagine that this relationship will survive the distance if it has run into difficulties close up.

I suggest you reconnect with that fun, spontaneous, person you used to be and just try and enjoy the next couple of weeks that you have together.  Beyond that, I think you will just have to wait and see.

I’m sorry I can’t be more help.

Peggy