Dear Alizee2007,

I don’t know if I can add anything more to what I have already said.  You have a very full life but you don’t have a love interest.  You didn’t want a love interest so you filled your life with projects etc.  You have some good friends and this man is now one of them.  It’s natural to want to be part of a loving relationship.  How long are you prepared to wait for this person to make a move?  Slip a note into his pocket saying that if he wants to talk more here is how he can contact you.  You’ve been churning this over in your mind for two years yet you haven’t even acted upon “I’ve just met my future husband”.  Have you ever expressed “I feel as if I’ve known you forever.”  I wish I was there at one of your meetings – I’d give you a great big push into his arms.

Plan A:  You want a loving relationship and you want it to be with him.  Action taken:  None

Obstacles:  You don’t want to spoil your friendship/working relationship.  You don’t want to appear pushy or desperate.  You haven’t found the right opportunity to invite him out.  He’s higher up on the career ladder than you.  He may not be single.  He may not be romantically interested in you.  You may not have the skills necessary to approach him in a certain way.  You feel powerless and “out of control”.  You are outside your comfort zone.  You are not communicating effectively.

Plan B:  There isn’t one.

Obstacles:  You are not prepared to put yourself into the dating market for fear of wasting energy on a potential partner who may be able to offer you the love that you are now seeking.  You are accepting that you are lonely but you are not actually prepared to do very much about it.  You’ve put all your eggs into one basket.  It’s a long time since you’ve been in a relationship.

“In the end, we only regret the chances we didn’t take” – Lewis Carroll

Peggy