Hi Katie,

It sounds like the only toxic relationship is the one with your cousin.

She brings down your self-esteem, disrespects you, flirts back with not one but TWO of your exes and tells you that you need a nose job.

You may have had self-esteem issues to begin with, but she has clearly picked up on it and uses it as a weapon to make herself feel better.

I’d be willing to bet that she gave off strong signals to the exes  – flirting is not one-sided and the boys most likely thought they had a chance. It works both ways, and the boys could have seen it as just attention, boosting their ego (regardless of who the girl is). It must hurt to be betrayed. But as your cousin, she should have respected your feelings and boundaries by stopping the flirting. The fact that she didn’t is a massive sign that she doesn’t respect you.

If I were you, I would stay away from this cousin for the sake of your self-esteem and mental health.