Dear cami:

You are welcome. I understand that you are in a very difficult situation. But if you “can’t afford losing him”, don’t make the situation worse. Lots of things are not going right for you as it stands, but don’t add more things going wrong.

There is a prayer of sorts that I like, it is called the Serenity Prayer. It says: “grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference”-

– figure out all the things you cannot change because those things are not at all up  to you or him. Then figure out the things you can change somewhat. Do you want to make these two lists here?

anita