Hi Catherine,

Your ex-boyfriend is a player and he’s been playing you.

“He was so good to you and he spoiled you.”  How exactly?  He had you hooked.  “If only he didn’t lie so much the relationship would have been great.”  He did lie and the relationship wasn’t great.

Every step of the way your ex boyfriend has been laying the blame on you.  “You are not affectionate when you are angry at him.”  Of course you are not.  Why would you be?

He’s replaced you with yet another woman that he loves – another woman that he is going to lie to and cheat on.  He is not going to change his behavior just because he’s with someone new.  She’ll go through exactly what you have been through.  He made you feel like you were paranoid with all those scenarios in your head, when all the time you were right to be suspicious of him.  Your “gut instincts” were right.

Regardless of your own problems, you are well out of this relationship.

I hope that you can put your mind at rest and not blame yourself for things that are clearly not your fault.

Best Wishes

Peggy