Michelle,

Being in the present moment is something only a very, very, very, very few can be and not all the time.  It is a *practice* which means we need to keep going back to it… all the time.

Good for you to be self-aware in knowing that you have separation anxiety. And you are self-aware enough to recognize that you both have share such intimate and wonderful times together.  For me, I have a small emotional range so I don’t feel the deep pain AND the soaring joy in life.  The price you pay is it seems that you do.  The good thing is that you experience the joy.

I do know that in order to get through pain and suffering is to sit with it.  Not to push it away.  To meditate on the emotions.  To be mindful about it.  To notice where in the body it physically shows up.  To stay with the painful feeling about it.  And let it be without judgment.  It is difficult and really painful but it’s good practice in being totally with yourself.

Make sense?

Mark