Dear Lindsey:

The Problem is anxiety, this is The Issue. Let’s say K makes a 180 degree change and is the most reliable, interested man in the world, as perfect  for you as can be… you will still get anxious. This is why it is most important that you do attend to and manage your anxiety best you can, remembering that… no matter how K behaved, you will continue to feel anxious. It takes months and years of consistent and stubborn work to reduce anxiety. For example, it will take months of you listening to the guided meditation series I recommended  to you, as well as some  daily aerobic exercise, I am guessing (20-30 min fast pace walk per day will do) as well as correcting your thoughts (there are excellent CBT exercises online available to correct distorted thoughts that cause anxiety), and so on.

K- is he working through his issues- I don’t know. Doesn’t read like he is. Most people try to survive their issues, escape them, not confront or manage them. Or heal.

anita