Hi Alecsee,

I have read all the posts as well.  Sorry to disappoint you but I don’t have a magic wand to wave that will make it all better.  This is a very short term relationship and you have really been expecting your ex girlfriend to fit into a box that you approve of.  She might very well have been giving you mixed messages but we only have one side of the story.

She should address issues the day they arise!!  How many people can you honestly say do that?  Unrealistic.  If only she’d have told you she was getting upset, you’d have made it all better.  Communication happens on the level of body language, silence, facial expressions, closed doors and so on.

If you meet another introvert you will know exactly how to deal with it!  You will love her unconditionally knowing that you cannot fix all the quirks that she might contain.  You will recognize that she is a unique individual who has chosen to be with you.  You will accept her exactly as she is knowing that in your eyes she is still perfect.

Perhaps what you should really do is take a good long hard look at yourself and ask yourself why you can’t accept people as they are, because you sure as hailstones can’t accept what this woman has said to you with no mixed messages involved.  If she thinks that she cannot meet your needs then you’ve made her feel inferior in some way.  Work on that!

As for winning her heart back, did she really have yours?

I hope I’m wrong and one day you’ll rekindle your lost passions and live happily ever after together.  Perhaps by then you’ll be able to be more honest with yourself and stop dumping all the blame on to this poor woman.

Peggy