Dear Cali Chica:

You pointed to the real injustice in your life: “born into this bad/ unlucky… had nothing to do with this”- this is the injustice in Cali Chica’s life.

The injustice in your life has not been that your mother had a magical childhood in India (she didn’t)  and then her life went down hill when she was arranged to marry and moved to the U.S,  it is not that she (chose to not ) work and therefore had a harder time than wives who did work. It was not that her husband didn’t satisfy her sexually, it is not that hairdresser neglected her in one of those international travels (a trip and companion that she chose). It is not that other people had that jealousy thing (jealousy that she chose to encourage repeatedly by showing off)… it was not that other families in Disneyworld were bigger (didn’t she choose to .. wait six years before getting pregnant again..?), it was not any of these things and so much more that you heard from her.

The injustice in your life is that you were born to her and you were stuck with her as a child and you didn’t choose to be born to her and be stuck with her for what felt like eternity, a misery that got formed into you with no choosing on your part.

anita