Have you told her how much you understand her shame and fear about intimacy and getting close to people or was she not ready to hear it at the time?

It does make sense about being older spiritually. She must have felt that too. For me it felt very frustrating to feel so young compared to him but at the same time alot of what he said was right and true and a part of me knew that. This could have happened with her in that on a deep level she agreed with you but on a surface levels she fought against it as wasn’t ready to hear it. I feel such shame when I look back now at that as I know it was just like a knee jerk reaction and he knew that I think but got frustrated with me when I was being slow and an idiot.

I did not ever think about someone else saying about boundaries. I have felt awkward in the past about how much to say and often held back or let everything out- like with the person- as it is so rare to find someone that gets it. I am always scared of being too much and pushing people away. Some people have alot of friends and people to hang out with and I sometimes feel jealous. I don’t want to be pushy or over friend my current 2 friends as I know they have Their lives too. It feels like I am asking too much of them.

I agree it is a beautiful thing to know those feelings are out there but I also struggle. I am a coward for not going after those feelings ? Do I need to as a human? Can I live with not going after them? I didn’t truely believe in soulmates until I met him then I did. It made it all make sense.