Dear LianJames:

Is 4 months enough time to be over a 4 year serious relationship, you asked. My answer: if you keep the relationship alive in your mind and heart, if you keep replaying the good parts as you have done, four months will not be enough, nor will four years or… four decades be enough.

Stop re-living parts of this relationship, see to it that she doesn’t contact you anymore (!) and you will make yourself available for a new relationship.

anita