Dear greenshade:

Regarding your mother- nice, that she is making some “physical affection gestures”, that she “communicates her needs”  instead of giving you “the silent treatment for days” and that you are able to standup for yourself when she “sometimes still says minimizing things”- but so what?

I mean, is this all of what your life is about, as a 30 year old woman, fixing your relationship with your mother? What if your life can be more than that?

This is what you wrote about your mother June this year regarding coming back home after 10 months away: “Since I have come back.. I have fallen into the old role if my life revolving around my mum.. my primary focus.. has shifted back to taking care of my parents and wanting to see my mom happy”-

What if your primary focus in your life becomes you?

And when will it be time to see yourself happy?

When is it your turn?

Back in June you wrote: “My mum feels like my life”- how sad that your life is not primarily yours or about you.

W h e n   I s   Y o u r   L I f e   going to be  Y o u r   O w n ?

anita