Dear Cali Chica:

You brought up “Wall street people having lunch in the sun, smiling laughing”- reminds me of the Wall Street hot shot in his time who is living in my area, owns at least two homes, one on an island, collects classic cars, we see him at the brewery I told you about. He talked among other things about the long “liquid lunches” he used to take with his wall street colleagues, in nyc, and often, every day perhaps. For whatever reason, he has been a very anxious person. You can see the distress behind his tired eyes. Like I wrote to you many times before, you see moments of people “in the sun, smiling, laughing” and you imagine this is their lives. Most often, not so.

It is a good thing your husband talked openly about his working conditions. You suffering over his working conditions is not helping him. You know that. But maybe if you relax into this truth, that your suffering is of no help to him, or to you. And that if you don’t suffer, you are more likely to be helpful to him, resourceful and creative with ideas. If you repeat this truth to yourself, it may help.

anita