Hi Anita ,

thanks for your response. That’s really brave of you to travel from London to the US like that. I’m glad that you’ve had positive experiences in psychotherapy. Thank you for your story!

I started therapy myself back in college around my 2nd year, so 7 years ago and have been in therapy up until 2 months ago. I decided to try out a male therapist so will get one going in a month or so.

I generally have an interest in psychology and self development. I work in the field.

My recent break through, not really a miracle but something I’m proud of this week is that I earned my security. So there are four attachment styles. Secure, anxious, avoidant & disorganized. I have successfully over time moved from disorganized, to avoidant to anxious to now secure. After hard work , Im now have a secure attachment style. My job did a workshop and tested us. I even took a few other versions of the test to confirm. It’s a breakthrough for me because my past relationships have been really challenging and tumultuous. I was very codependent & because I couldn’t get my relationships right I was failing in other areas in my life. Now that I’ve earned a secure attachment style I am more balanced. I am better at communication & setting boundaries . Saying no when I need to. Patience & interdependence. It’s a huge victory considering I grew up without the presence of either of my parents. So I’m happy .