Dear Aisha:

“a psychological discomfort at being deprived of the opportunity to do  good or to care for someone”-

Maybe I will be able to think of a term if you describe the specifics of the situation. Here is an example that is true to my childhood experience:

I was very sad that my mother was unhappy and worked too hard, so I wanted to help my mother, to make her happy-I cleaned the house and brought her flowers that I picked outside, but my mother got angry and said: now I have more work to do because you didn’t clean right! And about the flowers, she (might have said, I don’t remember): you brought dirt into my house!

I was deprived of an opportunity to do good or care for my mother because she rejected my efforts.

– what situation is true to you?

anita