Dear Cali Chica:

CC: Mommy can I go play with __?

Mother: Oh yes! She invited you? Go, go! It’s good they finally invited you. Go! Don’t worry about dinner, come home whenever!

I added the exclamation marks because I sense the excitement in her voice and it fits the sentence. So Cali Chica the child witnesses her mother getting positively excited over the prospect of CC going to another home to play with a Friend (a peer, another child). Nothing a girl wants more than to see her mother positively excited, aka happy!

CC the child hurries to the friend’s home knowing she is doing the right thing- nothing is more right than making Mother happy. The fun CC the child has in the other home is made possible and enhanced by the fact she witnessed: it makes Mother happy!

Fast forward CC the woman, married, inner circle vs outer circle, ex.: on vacation in South Africa, maybe at a restaurant sitting with husband, with the computer sending messages to a friend in nyc regarding her party, feeling like she is missing that fun back in nyc-

The Fun Factor is Elsewhere. Fun and Elsewhere are tied in neuropathways. Mother was excited about CC the child going Elsewhere. So CC the adult is excited about going Elsewhere.

But sometimes she is tired going elsewhere. CC is unhappy being so tired, so exhausted keeping all those Elsewhere-s there (keeping daily contact with so many friends), but she is driven, or compelled…?

anita