Dear Lindsey:

When you feel the anxiety starting, at the very beginning, do  something to calm yourself- anything from taking a walk around your workplace, if it happens at work, to taking a cold shower or a hot bath at home (whichever works), to listening to a relaxing guided meditation, or music, or making yourself hot tea or milk.

Point is- notice the beginning of fear, then calm yourself.

Regarding K- don’t know what you can or should do about him other than keeping your rules! Don’t worry about having expectations of him, you can’t help expecting, or hoping for more- more of anything.

Keep the rules regarding him, that is all you have to do in regard to K.

anita