Dear Austin:

You wrote that if you could go back in time, you “would probably have told her that we should have absolutely no contact for a long time after our breakup before we attempt a friendship”-

well, it is  not too late to follow this plan: to “have absolutely no contact for a long time”-

– and in this time of no contact (six months perhaps?), do attempt to “meet someone new soon”. In six months, if you still want to, if you are not involved with another woman by then, contact her. You can set a date to contact her in your calendar, six months from now or so and … forget about her best you can until then.

Does this reads to you like a reasonable plan?

(I will be away from the computer for a couple of hours).

anita