Hi Loneman,

Your girlfriend went to a party and got drunk.  This does not mean that she was unfaithful to you, it just meant that she wanted to have a good time.  If this person matters to you, then issuing any form of ultimatum will end in you losing her.  If you can’t trust her then she’s better off without you.  There is nothing wrong with your girlfirend enjoying herself at any age and it does not denote immaturity.  Like it or not, you are responsible for your own state of mind and it is up to you to decide whether your girlfrriend is worth you putting the effort in to deal with your extremes of emotions.  Join a yoga class and commit to half an hour a day, learn relaxation techniques, create new neural pathways in your brain which focus on positive thought and actions.

It’s interesting that you call yourself Loneman when your girlfriend has moved 1000 km to be with you giving up her own family and friends and now wants to meet new people and make friends.  This is called normal.  She’s made a commitment to you.  No doubt, if she spends any real time with her new friends, you’ll begin to feel neglected all over again.

You can’t change your girlfriend but you can change you.  This is where it’s at.

Peggy