Dear Karen:

Reads like his behavior with you was consistent with his behavior with others: “he would immediately block them on his phone for various length of times”-similar to his temporary silent treatments of you, “Sometimes he would forgive and invite them back into his life and other times those relationships would never recover”. I suppose he .. forgave you repeatedly but maybe not this time.

“He could not tolerate others seeing him in anything but a positive light”- he told you Wed that you had a strange look on your face when you asked him how his evening was, I suppose he saw in your face a negative criticism of him and he reacted like he usually does- blocked you, but this time, maybe permanently, aid by the fact that he is seeing another woman.

Back to his childhood home, I am guessing he did experience there lack of respect. Clearly when he was beaten, he was disrespected. Maybe he was disrespected there in other ways, maybe in many ways. Fast forward, he is alert and watches for any real or imagined sign of disrespect and automatically reacts.

anita