Hi PJ,

I am so sorry about the miscarriage and stillbirth. Having been through it, it really does a number on the family. Grief is a funny thing and everyone goes through it differently. Your wife is not “over it”, she is processing it in a certain way.

It would be best to stay married to your wife until your youngest goes to college.

You really don’t want to blow up everyone’s life by divorcing in the middle of child raising. If this other woman is  a forever person, she will still be there several years from now.

Best,

Inky