Dear Missyrap:

Reads to me that all along he is not all the way in, in the relationship, that is. That he is conflicted and sometimes he doesn’t want to be with you. Nothing personal, I think. He gets overwhelmed when spending too much time together, gets anxious/ angry and wants time alone.

When he told you yesterday, “maybe, maybe not”, regarding spending time with you today, seems to me that he is communicating to you something like: don’t expect me to be with you tomorrow just because I am with you today. He wants an exit, feels more comfortable with an exit available for him at all times.

If you expect him the next day, he feels pressured or uncomfortable.

Problem is you need consistency and consistency distresses him.

How about couple therapy for the two  of you?

anita