Dear cali sister:

I just finished going through (not reading everything) all your posts and felt embarrassed about my last post or posts to you June last year, how I misunderstood you at that point. But then, this is why I am here on tiny buddha, to learn. I get better at understanding over time and work. I was wrong June: I inaccurately projected my mother into you and stubbornly held on to that inaccurate projection/misunderstanding.

What I  noticed is how kind and genuine, honest, straightforward, appreciative, gracious (and having excellent sense of humor) you were all along.

I am exhausted. I put together a collection of your words over time and will post them later. But the computer is on, so I will be checking in case you post.

One more thing: having read and re-read and then read again the massive sharing by your sister and you (mostly by your sister), I have no doubt that you did the right thing to cut contact with both your parents. I mean, I don’t think anyone in the whole world read so much of her and your writing, communicating with the two of you over the period of years- so I hope that my absolute conviction that you did the right thing comforts you!

anita