Dear Anita, thank you so much for replying again !

– you tried long and hard to not think of her and it didn’t work, so better stop trying to not think of her. Allow yourself to think of her without trying to stop. But at the same time, make a space in your brain to think about practical things regarding your life. You can allow yourself to think of her let’s say (examples), 10 minutes every hour, or think of her after 4 pm every day but not before. So you start thinking about her at 8 am, say to yourself: later, I will think of her at 4 pm.

= I try to do this and i guess its quite working for me instead of forcing myself to stop thinking of her.

– decide then to contact her a year from now, choose a date and put the date in your calendar. From now until then think about and go about your life in practical ways so that you are more likely to be accepted by her when you do contact her. Take care of your health and get in good physical shape, do well in your studies, job/ career. Make yourself a good candidate for her.

= This is a good suggestion, but do u think if i do this that means that i’m still hoping for her? But i cant force myself to not make her a candidate of me in the future but i’ll try as maybe i can stop thinking of her as time passes by because i dont contact her anymore.

Right now i’ve muted her insta stories so that i wont see her activities, she will soon notice that i didnt view her stories anymore.. do u think this will make her dislike me and eliminate my chances to make her a candidate in the future?

And also i’ll try to improve myself in a better physical shape and improve my career later on to be a better candidate in the future (maybe), but even so.. there is one flaw that i cant change which that both of us have the same height which is 5’5. Do u think this might be a problem?