Jim,

Thank you also for responding. I completely understand what you mean by smothering. I guess this totally blind sided me so now months of me not doing what i should have done is pouring out like crazy.

I will continue being the man of my word and doing what needs to be done, although it’ll be hard I know i can do it, for my kids’ sake.

She had sent me a text after i wrote the first post saying “i feel we are in separate places, wanting different things. I feel we have become more like friends than anything else” which i would agree, but it takes two to keep the spark alive. I feel like she’s already given up hope. I almost feel bad for her, what happens if we end this then she’s onto the next relationship then things go stale, she’ll move on again and never be happy.. that’s awfully sad.

But again, thank you for the words of encouragement and support.