Hi Jim,

I’ve been thinking about your situation.

She understands why you ended it. Your “I have a hard time keeping up with the constant communication all day long and enjoy some independent time, as sometimes that type of treatment can feel overwhelming to me” translated to her as “a relationship with a former bi-polar addict who’s a victim of domestic abuse and has poor relationships with family members isn’t exactly what I’m looking for.” So the risk she took by telling you her history failed. She’s hurt, feels judged, and this isn’t the first time this has happened to her. So she wants to move on, wants to find someone who is more accepting of her.

At age 33, you’re ready to settle down and start a family. You’re done wasting time with women you don’t see as wife material — that’s why you ended things with her. But you’re lonely. You miss the connection you had with her, how she made you feel, so you’ve decided you’ve made a big mistake and want her to forgive you for hurting and judging her, give you a second chance. You want to resume the relationship.

Do you now see her as potential wife material?

B