Dear ZoeyD:

Betrayal is a terrible thing to experience. When you are betrayed by a person you trust, it hurts terribly. Unfortunately, I don’t think there is a person on the face of the earth who was not betrayed. Often we, as children, get betrayed by one or two of our parents, the people we trusted most in the world, the people we never imagined would  betray us.

Don’t worry about how to trust a future man in your life. When you meet someone new, get to know him over time and base your trust in him on the evidence you  gather.

“he left and betrayed me, I must have done something, or not seen something”. I mentioned children being betrayed by any one of their parents. A child never does anything to deserve betrayal. But often, a child hasn’t “seen something”, that is, a child sees her parents as gods, perfect, not as flawed or bad people.

I hope you feel better soon. Post again anytime. I will be away from the computer and back in about 14 hours from now.

anita