Dear Maria:

In your original post you wrote: “She then started to hang out with someone that wasn’t a very good influence”. In your most recent post you wrote: “I introduced them to each other when we were fresh out of school”, them being W and sugar babe-

– when you introduce information with a negative connotation, you take yourself out of it: she started to hang out with a bad guy, not you-and-her, only her, presenting it as if you didn’t introduce him to  her, as if you weren’t there.

In your original post you wrote about W and sugar babe: “They would go to parties.. use drugs and alcohol”. In your recent post you wrote about you and W: “we wouldn’t indulge in these things at the time. We were kinda naïve and young”-

– again, when there is a negative connotation, you take yourself out of it: it was them who attended those parties, not you. Then, a correction: you were there too.

In your original post, she got into drugs, alcohol and random sex right away, with him, going to those parties. Later on, a correction: you were there, but you and W were naïve, didn’t do drugs, alcohol and random sex.

Well, Maria- I can’t count on your account of the story. You are quite motivated to make yourself look good, take yourself out of bad-looking situations. I am thinking this is part of your good-sibling/ good-daughter/ good-girl role. This role has a significant element of retelling a story (your original post is the retelling) so to make yourself look good, and hand the badness to the others (W and sugar babe).

anita