Dear Luke:

As to your question: I am not a psychotherapist. Neither do I have a degree in psychology.

I understand that you are unhappy with some of my replies to you. Therefore I will give you my closing thoughts based on my communication with you so far and following these, I will not reply to you again (unless you ask me by name to reply to you). I hope other members reply to you here (or in any future thread you may start).

-if you choose to spend Christmas with your parents and sister, better not confront anyone Christmas Eve or Christmas Day. May it be as peaceful and as pleasant a day for you, your sister, your mother and father.

-I think that it is better that you no longer involve yourself with the relationship between your parents, because there are no minor children involved in that relationship. Leave their relationship to them.

-Practice assertiveness with anyone and everyone regarding issues that do involve you.

Merry Christmas and Happy New Year to you.

anita