Hi Hannah,

I’ve been in a similar situation so I found it very easy to relate to certain parts. It’s one of the worst feelings, having to choose between your heart and your head.
The guy seems to be confused with himself, and seems to be displacing this confusion by sending you mixed signals. This is NOT okay. Take mixed signals as a no. He seems to not know what he wants and therefore, keeps you where he’s able to reach you. Social media makes that easier now. It seems he is struggling but it is not your job to fix him, he needs to live and learn. People don’t just ‘lose feelings’, but he may have repressed them. His ‘player’ instincts may have kicked in, perhaps he is scared to really love you. But that isn’t your problem, it’s his. If he can’t man up and accept that he feels something for you then he isn’t the one. But it’s not your job to make him realise that.
If you do take him as he is, I suspect it will be toxic. He may disconnect from you whenever he ‘shuts down’ and it will be a constant cycle, a loop of hurt and it’s one of the worst types of hurt. Not to mention, external influences. If he is able to ‘lose feelings’ and you’s were together, what would stop him from being disloyal? Absolutely nothing since he claims to feel nothing.
He isn’t in touch with himself. Let him go. If you’s are meant to be, you will be eventually. There are things he needs to work on before he can be with anyone. Don’t trap yourself in this confusion, it really does make you feel like you’re going crazy. Work on what is going to be best for you. He is not best for you. Not at this moment anyway. Be patient.

Best of luck to you!