Hi Nekoshema,

Listen to Valora! She is absolutely right.

He lambasted your fiancé by pitting him against his friend. He’s trying to make you fight with your family. He’s one way in private and another way in public. No one likes him except you and his girlfriend (that he took five years to find).

We fall in love with the diamond in the rough, person with a heart of gold who’s just misunderstood stories. But think. The fact that you are asking strangers on the internet about him, and even the strangers are saying, “Bad News”, even while you can control the narrative of the story, speaks volumes.

I would still be friends with him, but never see him alone and never take him around groups of other people. Guess what that means? That means that he gets to see and talk to you WITH YOUR FIANCE/HUSBAND around! His least favorite person! Yay! He has to man up, grow up, and stop instigating, isolating, and triangulating people.

Or, just quietly dump him.

Merry Christmas,

Inky