Dear Cali Chica:

After reading your post before last, the thought that you didn’t like my communication with her did cross my mind, but I didn’t mind that much, I wasn’t troubled or offended by this thought. This is why I didn’t ask you about it. I explained to you my motivations (to support her new no -contact, to occupy her so that you will be left alone to do your thing, and over time, not right from the start, I  because I became emotionally attached to her ), in case it helps you understand better.

“It reminds me of my childhood. My father or I would spend countless time calming my mother down.. and then bam when a new person arrived in he home, say my sister, an aunt, anyone-it would start all over- all our efforts in vain”- that’s the histrionic personality, a new person=> new audience, the show is back on.

anita