Hi everyone. Just to make the update to this doubt of mine back then.

The situation now is like this: I found a great job here in Croatia (and didn’t have to move to Ireland). It was easier than I expected and I’m very happy with my job now. It’s a stable company, a lot less stresfull job than the last one and I have a good oportunity to get promoted.

I’ve stayed in this relationship. The intimacy problem went away after a while (it was quite a long time, took us 5 months), and I must admit we found a lot of common wishes and ideas we’d like to try, so it was well worth waiting for 😀

We see each other often, spend really nice time together, understand each other and have an unbelievable connection.

And this came as a huge surprise to me, they are now thinking about telling their kids the truth about their situation. They think the older one could figure something out…and it’s hard for them to come up with an excuse every time he comes to see me or she goes away for a week or two to spend time with her partner. Since he was so determinate to keep us a secret and leave the situation as is, I’ve accepted it. Didn’t like it but accepted. And I was even scared now when the things are changing. It seems even too soon. So he said they will consider it and not rush with it jet…but…it’s something they are now ready to do.

So against all odds…this turned better than any of you…or even myself expected.

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