Thank you very much Anu for your input, I found it really useful and it rings very true. I’ve had some contact with the guy over Christmas, as I mentioned to Anita, but I don’t get the impression he’s overly keen to meet up and work things out. I tried to keep messaging to a minimum, but asked him to meet up in a few days to talk and he has agreed. My friends have insisted that I need to meet him face to face to explain what happened rather than just always wonder, in case we could sort it out. But I feel like it’s going to be so hard to see him again and I get the feeling he has already made up his mind we should just be friends- I wish he’d explicitly say he just wants to be friends beforehand if that’s the case so I get some prior warning, but don’t feel I should ask. The thing is I don’t think I can be friends with him if I still have feelings for him, so this will likely be the last time I ever see him. It’s such an overwhelming thought and I feel like I have been forced to instigate my own dumping, again- I’m just not sure I’m strong enough to see him and go through with it. However, if I think about what you have said, maybe I do deserve better, and maybe he isn’t the one for me. Which makes the situation slightly more tolerable and less overwhelming. So, thank you.