Hi Anita,

I don’t think he was actively listening. In fact, that entire evening I found his behavior on the phone to be demanding, then immediately followed by pulling away and saying  “it’s cool” or “it’s straight.” I’d like to also mention that at one point, he did call around 6pm when I was cooking with my family. I let him know I was gonna finish baking the rolls and would call him back. Time did get away from me and an hour later he called back quite upset. I apologized for getting caught up, but it was then that he started to tell me he was feeling like a “second option” because I decided to visit my godmother for NYE after he kept changing his mind about spending time with me. He repeatedly changed his mind about going out, to staying home, to wanting me to visit, etc. Then apologized for directing his anger at me.