Dear Elli:

(or do you prefer elli?)

You are welcome. You shared your 2019 accomplishments: finding a new job where you earn enough money to be able to save some for the first time in your work history, you lived away from your parents in your own apartment, went to the gym, learned to swim, started sewing, participated in an art festival in September-

– excellent accomplishments, from saving money, to living on your own and on, to  experimenting with things for the first time in your life (swimming, sewing)!

“I want to think positive, that is nothing wrong with me but I recognize as well that I am not having a person near me to remind me of those things.. I just need a motivator”-

– you can list a few positive affirmations on a piece of paper, carry a copy of this paper in your purse, have it anywhere you go, and have a copy by your bed. Every so often, read those affirmations. Take advantage of times when you feel calm, before sleep maybe, and read these affirmations in a meditative way, calm and slow.

Example of an affirmations: I can make good choices. There is nothing wrong with me. I can find a good man to marry. But thing is: you have to come up with the words for your affirmations yourself, they must feel right to you.

Also, you only have to believe a bit in each affirmation. For example: “I can find a good man to marry”- I assume you will have doubts when you say it, at least sometimes. And that is okay. The purpose of the affirmations is to introduce to your brain a new belief, a new possibility of what may be true.

If you want, you are welcome to list your chosen affirmations here and I can give you my thoughts about them.

You shared about your loneliness this past year, something I can relate to because I was very lonely a whole lot of my life. As the social animals we are born to be, it really does make a person crazy to be alone for too long (“I just started becoming crazy”).

“it is not that I am not have a good time with my self but I need and a friend company”- it is impossible for a person to be content without company for too long because we are social animals. No matter how much you enjoy time alone, once in a while, you need company. We all do.

Please do post here anytime you want to, and I will be glad to remind you that indeed, there is nothing wrong with you, that you are capable of making good choices (and already made many of those!) and so forth.

anita