Dear Felix:

Part of what your parents told you is true: money is a big attraction for people, men and women, of course. But I figure you want a love relationship, not a financial arrangement. At the least, money should not be everything for a woman, she should care about… who it is she gets married to, not solely the man’s bank account.

You asked me: “do u think I should just be confident..”- no, I don’t think you can choose to feel confident and then.. you’ll feel confident. It is not a matter of choice. What I wrote to you in my last post to you, that keep talking reality to yourself. Say to yourself: if she (whomever she is) rejects me, then I will be single just as I am now, no difference. This reality self talk may give you the courage to approach a woman even though you don’t feel confident.

“do u think she might feel weird that a stranger text her?”

How is it that you have her phone number, it being that she is a stranger?

If you have her phone number and you are a stranger, or almost a stranger, maybe better that you give her a paper note with your phone number, asking her to call you, a short note that you will hand to her in person, when you see her.

(I am not familiar with the etiquette of dating in the existing hightly technological world).

anita