Yes that’s it she has mainly said the same things but did about 3 times say about trying but as I mentioned to her that when she has said about trying I don’t think she truly meant it but yes I have to just move on now because she is showing no change in anything and like I said I will respect that no matter how hard it is to the thing that gets to me as well is our child that obviously is the one that’s been hit the worst in all this with obviously loosing having both her parent’s there yes she will still have us both just not in the same way it has been I also ask her every so often if she is ok not sure if that’s the right thing to do but feel it’s my duty as a parent to check because from what I see it doesn’t seem to have bothered her maybe it’s not hit home yet I am not sure