Dear Linda:

You are welcome.

Feb 14 a year ago you felt this way: “I feel much more relaxed.. I even feel happy sometimes, which has been a long time ago since I felt this way. I seem to enjoy the little things more, like taking a walk, reading, cooking.. and all the things I worried about before, don’t mean a thing”-

– I wished this would be how you were feeling now, a year later. But instead, “I’m going crazy, want to text and call him every minute of the day, it’s killing me”.

And the reason you feel so badly is because you are in a bad situation: you feel emotionally that you need this man’s love very much, but he doesn’t love you but maybe he will this is his position. This is a bad situation for you because you are waiting and waiting and hoping that he will love you one day, maybe tomorrow, maybe the day after…

For as long as you have this strong emotional need for him, and for as long as he doesn’t-love-you-but-maybe-he-will-one-day: for as long as this situation exists, you will be miserable.

How can this situation change:

1. He decided that he loves you.

2. You stop needing him emotionally.

3. You decide to end this relationship.

Because you can’t change how he feels (#1), and because you can’t change how you feel (#2), I recommend that you decide to end this relationship.

If he cared for you, he would not want to see you suffering because his feelings are blocked, he wouldn’t put you in the position of waiting and waiting and hoping.

Post again anytime.

anita