Dear ninibee

Regarding your first post: you do have direct evidence that a parent or a few parents of your peers didn’t want their children to play with you. I figure that you carried the distress of your home life to outside your home: other children’s homes, the playground, school. I don’t know if there is a case where a misbehaving physically healthy child is not reacting to the distress in his home and/ or the complete lack of parental guidance at home.

A child is a “bad influence” on other children when at home he is ..  badly influenced by a parent!

Regarding your second post: I wonder if your intense fear of vomiting has to do  with you having been forced fed as a baby- maybe your mother forced food into your mouth and you gagged, feeling like vomiting. I don’t know if you have or can possibly get this kind of information.

Regarding your third post: please don’t worry about this thread being all on me- I want to read from you. When I read from you and answer you, I learn more about myself, about people, about life, and I enjoy learning these things. So you are helping me learn. You mentioned feeling shame- I can’t take away your shame, of course, but I assure you: I don’t think of you in any way that will validate the shame you feel when you do. I don’t think of you in a bad or a lesser way for anything at all that you share honestly, as you do.

anita