Dear Gaia:

I like your analogy very much, I am impressed by how well you expressed yourself using this analogy. “growing ‘randomly'”- quite profound.

I used to make up rules for myself, “to lean on”, rules of behavior. It helped somewhat, to keep going by a set of to-do and to-not-do rules.

A quality psychotherapist would be an excellent support for the Ivy that you are, guiding your growth. I suppose a healthy home is the place for ivy children to grow, and a foundation for the growth. Unfortunately too many of us don’t have that early- life foundation.

anita