Dear Stepan Pavlas:

“this is probably the end” only if you want it to end. I’ve been communicating with members here for years, so as far as I am concerned, and because you are such an intelligent, well-read and interesting young person, I am willing to keep communicating with you on and on.

About loving oneself (“Right now it is hard to even love myself”)- it is possible to come to a place of peace, peace-of-mind, contentment with who you are, but love as in that meaningful emotional exchange you and I mentioned, that can’t be done with the self, there has to be another person involved. It is so because we are social animals, we are built with the motivation to connect to another person, and exchange emotions and behaviors with another person.

Therefore, the one and only way to experience love is by having a person outside of ourselves involved in our life, in a deep connection/ meaningful emotional exchanging way.

It is similar to this: you can’t be an employee unless you get an employer to hire you, got to have another person involved.

This girl, she is not the one and only possible person to love-and- be loved by, is she?

anita