Dear Akowens98:

You don’t know him for long. I don’t know if you identify yourself as polyamorous, and if he is still polyamorous himself. If he is contemplating divorce and “needs to get his head straight”, maybe he is reconsidering his polyamorous choice. I don’t know. Seems to me that in the short time that you know him, you don’t know enough about him, and what you do know may change.

If you can handle the patience it takes, give him the time and space and inquire about him later, in a few weeks or so. But if you don’t have that kind of patience, send him a message, asking him to let you know if and when he needs you to listen to him and whatnot, send the message and let  go, stop hoping and waiting for him.

anita