PS @Genie – Ha, mother hen indeed…….how old do you think I am 😉  Appreciated and understood though. It’s so good to hear you are working on showing Jay he is appreciated, reaching out to him and checking on him. It is very very easy to simply want to be looked after and kept safe – but that’s a parental type relationship. Real relationships are give/take and supporting each other when needed as you are doing. I hope he’s noticing the difference 🙂