Dear CB:

To “accept for whatever reason it’s over and try to move forward”, you will need to somehow stop turning the same thoughts over and over in your mind and making yourself ill. Time to practice mindfulness exercises (available online, maybe on the home page of this website under Blogs), maybe get into a yoga routine that will be gentle on your back, some aerobic exercise, so to get your mind off the same-old-same-old thoughts.

“I want to show my son that I’m a proud woman that’s happy in my own skin”- you can’t show him that you are happy in your own skin when you are not happy in your own skin, but you can show him that you are taking the right actions toward becoming comfortable in your own skin. If he sees you practicing mindfulness exercises, doing yoga,  some aerobic exercise, following a daily routine that works for you, then he will see that you are a strong woman.

To be a strong woman does not mean to feel happy (although that would be nice); it means to take the right actions on a daily basis, day after day, toward feeling better in the future.

anita