Anita –

Yes in a way, I’m not saying, of course, that my pain is in anyway comparable to the physical pain of childbirth (never having gone through it myself!) But I do believe that when some relationships end, you either end up vilifying or idealising the relationship, and in my case it is idealising, which is similar to how people forget the pain of childbirth. Not the best analogy maybe but I thought it up on the spot so to speak.

I’m perfectly aware there was some low level emotional abuse in the relationship, but I’m having a hard time accepting this fully, I keep blaming myself. But hopefully with therapy ill be able to move on, learn and put it behind me.

All these are true and exist together, neither one contradicts the other.