Dear Javairia:

“I’ve been feeling guilty… I suddenly deactivated my social media… two of my close friends got really worried about me. And I feel like a jerk to make them have worries for me.. And that guy texted me again.. I replied again…I feel like, ‘bad person’ complex is getting to me again”-

– you want to be a good person, not a bad person, so here is what you don’t do: do not self-harm, self harming will not make you a good person, not in any way, shape or form!

Here is what you do:  decide who is good to you and for you, and who is not good to you and for you, and end contact with those who are not good to you and for you, pay attention to your behavior and see that it is the behavior of a good person.

What do you think about the following behavior to be next, for you: telling the guy (who is not good for you) to not contact you anymore, and apologizing to your two friends (if they are good to you and for you) for deactivated your social media without letting them know why and discussing future contact with them..?

anita