Hello Anita,

Thank you for your reply. Your reply made me felt a lot better, because I obtain the social proof for my negative emotions.

I have not seen my girlfriend for another 2 weeks and we refrained from discussing this issue. I tried to calm myself down and re-think the entire problem.

I think my girlfriend is not a lier. She really put in a lot of effort trying to make it transparent. Her decisions aside, I think I can at least say that I am making decisions based on complete information.

I think I might give it another try by getting to know Joe a bit more. If I get to know Joe and trust him, maybe I will not look at this as a potential affair, but accept their way of interaction. They are working with me too. They are changing how they interact.

If it does not work out, then I will be very sad. I will hope that they found someone who can accept this, and we three will live happily. But yeah, life is tough and one has to take the trade-offs.

Thank you again for your message Anita. I really appreciate it.